Profane Misconception

“You swear more than most people I know, COMBINED….so why do people think it bothers you?!??”

This is the short and sweet of a conversation I had the other day on Real ID, and it got me thinking.  First off, he’s absolutely right.  I’ve come up with more curse terms than you can shake a stick at, and I use many of them often.  Yet, there’s online friends who apologize when they swear in a conversation with me.  How did this even happen?

Well, for starters, I did make a conscious effort to cut back on my profanity once my son started to talk.  I just think that happens to be a good idea when he’s around.  Also, I try not to do it too much in regular conversation, just because I think I can prove my point just as effectively without it.  But, when something irks my ire, you never know what’ll come out at the target of my cursive wrath.

Now, near as I can figure, I did myself no favours on the Twisted Nether podcast earlier this month.  In my head I wanted to say that if someone does a post that is 90% swearing, it just does nothing for me.  Unfortunately, it didn’t come out like that at all.  It was more “swearing in a blog is bad” and that’s the last thing I wanted to say.  As I say, it also did nothing to help this opinion of me amongst the community that I don’t swear and I don’t appreciate it around me.

You?? Curse?? Now this iz srs bznz! *puts on her srs hat*

That was Effy, in a chat on her blog.  It is what got me thinking before the Real ID comments I started the article with.  My Claws mates know I swear.  My wife really knows I swear.  Heck, I’m pretty sure my son’s figured it out.  So why don’t I seem to do it as much in my writing?  I guess the only conclusion I can come to is because I look at places like the forums where it’s nothing but cell phone speak and profanity.  It just seems to completely debilitate anything resembling an opinion or intelligent thought and I don’t want that to be how I come off.  In my blog in particular I don’t do it often, and that’s part of my writing style.  When I do, I want it to be for emphasis or at the very least anyone reading it will just know that I’m pissed off.

But yes, dear friends, I’m an Amateur of many things…swearing is not one of them.  In fact, the wordsmith part of that web address up there most definitely covers the vulgar, profane, and malediction of the English language.

14 thoughts on “Profane Misconception

  1. tomeoftheancient August 18, 2012 / 8:22 am

    Well damn JD, that’s a relief. I thought I was going to have to clean up my act, whew.

    • JD Kenada August 18, 2012 / 10:23 am

      Lol, see??? I have no idea where this misconception began.

  2. Banesidhe August 18, 2012 / 8:33 am

    I think it comes down to communication. I’m a police dispatcher, believe me, there is a lot of f-bombs and other kind of bombs getting dropped 12 hours a day when I am at work and I have noticed since I started this job almost eight years ago, my language has got a lot worse. However, online, especially in blogs and forums, I go out of my way to keep the cursing to the minimum. Why? When you’re talking in say Vent, or in real life, there are more nuances, and if I’m talking in Vent, it’s around people I’m comfortable with. There are nuances, to tone and facial expression that you can’t get across in a strictly text format, and cursing, to me, only seems to clutter that up.

    The written language, when it’s used to communicate something, has to rely strictly on what you read, and how people interpret those words. Everything comes from those words. Tone, mood, nuance, implication- everything. There is nothing else to rely on, and while cursing like a sailor gets me by just fine at work or amongst friends, when you’re addressing a wider audience- that doesn’t work as well, because where one person may get that you’re just “being you”, five other people will only see “Gosh, this person is angry and bitter and ranting”, another three will get “This crass individual must be a troll to only be able to communicate in four letter words” and six other people will interpret it in another way entirely.

    At least, that’s my damned theory. 😉

    • JD Kenada August 18, 2012 / 10:26 am

      And a fine theory it is.

  3. Cymre August 18, 2012 / 9:06 am

    There was a guildie who used to swear every few words and I couldn’t take being on vent for that very reason. Unfortunately, he wouldn’t shut up when we should have been concentrating on raiding and it also stopped him from being able to click the button after we wiped to run back.

    People like that really piss me off but if it’s a blog that has the same amount of swearing I can just not read it. Luckily for me, the ones I do frequent and comment on, you already know who you are 😛

    Not to say I don’t swear, Cool can tell you how much I do in PVP, dungeons or raids – sometimes just for silly stuff but everything has a time and a place but that’s just my opinion. 🙂

    • JD Kenada August 18, 2012 / 10:24 am

      Your last sentence summed up my thoughts exactly…especially the part about PvP and dungeons. Well, except LBR. I don’t think I’ve ever verbally swore during one of those.

  4. Matty August 18, 2012 / 9:30 am

    I have been known to make sailors blush. I have been known to peel paint off walls. I have been known to make saints and devils cry. But I don’t cuss at work–but Azeroth, now–that’s another story.

    • JD Kenada August 18, 2012 / 10:27 am

      You sound like Mrs. Amateur…

      • Carla Doak August 20, 2012 / 7:43 am

        I have absolutely no idea what you mean…

        • JD Kenada August 20, 2012 / 9:09 am

          No, none I’m sure…

  5. Navimie August 18, 2012 / 5:24 pm

    And you were teasing me about swearing, saying I should make a sticker called Navicussed. Well, you cheeky little ….. 😛

    • JD Kenada August 18, 2012 / 5:47 pm

      You’re the second Aussie today to call me cheeky. Last time I had concerns about you guys Dragonray told me it was the vodka in the water. Perhaps it’s just straight Yellowtail this time (which, by the way, I’m a big fan of).

      • dragonray August 18, 2012 / 11:10 pm

        I Call you cheeky for entirely different reasons though :p

        • JD Kenada August 19, 2012 / 5:58 am

          Details, details.

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