I’ve listened to a few different podcasts but only recently heard of Groupquest. So, this morning I finally had a chance to give a listen to them and it was a pretty good show was great, in particular talking about the portrayal of women in WoW and why they didn’t have the orc or human as a female. It was well discussed. So, I decided to go back an episode while I did some painting in the bedroom (yeah, more work around the house).
Again, a great discussion -emphasis on the Draenei. I couldn’t agree more about them, in particular their strengths and their weaknesses. I would have to agree the Naaru are “good guys.” They strike me as soldiers of the light, so to speak…but yes their pride is their own downfall. What surprised me, was hearing them talk about a situation I was aware of.
They didn’t want to name names, and I can respect that because it’s not necessarily important to the discussion. However, anyone who knows the “server visitor” they talk about will know exactly who it was. There’s only one blogger who does that. So that kinda defeats the “holding back names” in my opinion. Not necessarily right or wrong there. I didn’t really have a problem with that.
“It’s unfortunate for both sides how it turned out.” That’s very true, and as cited, the two sides sorted it out. Which, kudos for people being adults even in this day and age when hiding behind a computer royally turns people into douches. It’s usually a case of you’re wrong and I’m right -from both sides. So, the end result was refreshing. What I think of the two people involved and how it happened isn’t relevant at all above and beyond that. How it all went is how it all went. I only know one of the people involved, and that might taint what I’m about to say.
“Think before you write” is true, but to suggest it towards the blogger in this scenario is inaccurate. As a blogger, you write about things personal to you. Whether it’s ideas, or experiences, you are going to write. That’s what my friend did and had the “social responsibility” (hosts own words) to leave out the names. Now granted, posting the topic and then asking people to refrain from attacking the other person isn’t going to work unless you shut off comments. Human nature is what it is.
Look at what happened right here during Mog Madness with Keelhaul. People ripped him a new one for what he said, before he even had a chance to respond. I shared my thoughts but gave him a chance to respond. A blogger has every right to talk about what they want, or what has happened to them. But it’s also our responsibility to decide whether we want to risk escalating the situation by opening the discussion up to others. The initial right, though, is still ours.
Someone could turn around and blog about me after this. They might disagree with me or they might agree. That’s their entitlement. Now, if they attack me then there’s definitely going to be backlash about it…and it will turn into a fight between those who argue for and against the writer (or yours truly). That’s the real issue. Whether it’s social networking, a message board mentality, or just computer anonymity, people seem to fly off the handle when discussions can stay civil. I can understand being emotional about things, but there’s a way to do it. Tact is very under utilized.
That’s why I appreciate the closing aspect of the discussion so much. Be polite, and be courteous to others. I’m notorious for being short fused, but when it comes to discussions I try to pause a moment and put it in a coherent sentence and focus on an issue rather than an individual. I know that doesn’t always work, and in some cases it really is the person instead of the issue but those are circumstantial.
Think about it the next time you react to something in Trade, Guild Chat, Twitter, your personal message board, or even your blog. Try responding to the issue itself instead of the person creating the issue in the first place. If I write something you completely disagree with, say so. But instead of going, “Wow JD, you’re fucking clueless” point out what I wrote that was incorrect and why. Or even with this, you could say “but JD, you’re missing the bigger issue here and that is such and such.” Just don’t go “but so and so started it, so the response was fair.” That goes back to the old, be the bigger person.
Social media has shrunk the world to a size a fraction of what it was even 20 years ago. We’re connected in so many ways, to so many people. We’re so quick to pick sides instead of focusing on the issue and sorting it out instead of each other. I’m guilty of it too. If we all try to be just a bit nicer when we differ in opinion, then it can only work out better all around.