The Blind Approach

Ugh. This was half an hour after I ignored the first one.

After talking about Cross-Realm Zones yesterday and how the ideal solution would be to allow us to toggle them off or on as we see fit, another switch popped into my head.  Guild Interest.  On my toons that have no guild, I’m getting an absurd number of blind invites these days.  Heck, I’ll get three from the same person in a one hour period.  At least, I used to.  I finally found out (because it never occurred to me to look until AFTER I started writing this) there’s a way around this.  In the interface options you can choose to turn off guild invites.  Amen!

I have yet to figure out if it blocks blind signature requests for a charter though.  I blew a gasket at another player about a week and a half ago.  I was running my auction scan and it was in the final ten seconds of an eight minute scan (because I accidentally closed the window after the quick scan).  Suddenly everything closes and I’m looking at a guild charter request for signature.  After tearing a strip off said player (who I don’t think was at all ready for such a response), I flat out told them had they just whispered me and asked for the signature, I would have happily given it to them.  Instead, they sent the request blindly without a care for what the person is doing.

And that’s one of those things in-game that just irks me.  You’re so desperate for someone to help you out or beef your guild numbers, yet you can’t even take the time to be courteous about it.  I actually have had players invite my Mage to a group and when I ask why it’s “I need a port.”  Then they wonder why I drop group and put them on Ignore.  A little bit of manners is all I’m asking instead of taking for granted that people will just jump through hoops for whatever pittance of service you seem to need in that moment.

Even the guilds that do send a whisper with their invites.  It’s generic as can be about how they would love to have me and they just know I would be an asset to them.  Um, how so?  You’re a level 25 guild that raids 3-4 nights a week and you’re talking to a level 14 bank alt.  At least the RP servers get creative and suggest my character has been presented with the opportunity to be a part of said organization (generic paraphrasing here, of course).

It’s to the point where if someone actually whispers me with a kind and polite request, without a guild logo flashing on my screen…I’m almost dumbfounded.  Very rarely do I actually accept the invite, but at least in this case I will reply and make a point of praising the courtesy they showed me by actually making the effort first.  In the long run, that actually makes the guild look better.  If I change my mind and decide I do want to be a part of a guild, I’m aiming for that girl, rather than the spam-esque folk.

I realize people are jerks behind a computer screen, and I know I’ve discussed it at lengths.  I suppose I just continue to be amazed at the deterioration of common decency and courteousness.

14 thoughts on “The Blind Approach

  1. kamaliaetalia November 1, 2012 / 1:22 pm

    Turning on “auto decline guild invites” is one of the first things I do with a new character, as a default setting. It still dumbfounds me when I get an invite from the same person multiple times in a day or a few days in a row.

    I was really boggled, though, when I was on one of my alts last week and I got a whisper from someone asking me to drop my guild, join their guild, run some dungeons with them, and then “you can just go back to your old guild”. HA! Ha ha, ha ha. The alt I was on happened to be the GM of my personal alt/banking guild, so I finally whispered back, “this character is the guildmaster of this guild, so no, no thank you.” I would have declined even if it had been one of my other characters, but I might have had a more difficult time finding a polite way to phrase it!

    • JD Kenada November 1, 2012 / 4:50 pm

      Wow, the whole “drop your guild” person is a whole new type of individual I’ve yet to encounter.

      …and yes, the repeated invites from someone who’s just oblivious due to sending out invites to anyone not in a guild is just head-shaking. I really wonder what some of these guilds are actually like. “Okay, tonight we’re going to hit the new Mists raid. Healers, you’re numbered 1-5 and we’re going to random roll. Whatever two numbers we roll first are out. Sorry about your luck. Either that or just invite the first 10 people online and wonder why you have six healers and no tank.

  2. Effraeti November 1, 2012 / 2:15 pm

    Want to hear something even more dumbfounding? I found out that these people are randomly inviting + sending said generic whispers with an add-on. That actually angers me. Not only are you discourteous, but you are lazy too…

    ~ Effy

    • JD Kenada November 1, 2012 / 4:51 pm

      Yeah, when I got one on my main account and my RaF account at the exact same time, I came to that conclusion. I’m with you on anger level for that one.

  3. Navimie November 1, 2012 / 2:40 pm

    I didn’t know there was that option. Thanks!

    • JD Kenada November 1, 2012 / 4:51 pm

      I didn’t either until I started writing this post…and then realized I should quickly double check before I rip the game a new one for a feature I don’t even know about.

  4. tomeoftheancient November 2, 2012 / 6:15 am

    I would have gone even crazier long ago without that feature. And when you actually get a polite whisper and chat from someone it really reflects well on their guild but it’s been years since that’s happened.

    • JD Kenada November 2, 2012 / 7:47 am

      I couldn’t agree more Tome.

  5. Cymre November 2, 2012 / 7:30 am

    I did that too on my low alliance toon. Unfortunately, the psts still happen but I can live with that… I’m so with you being polite though when asking for things, esp when I’m on the receiving end. I always make an conscious effort to be courteous though. But that’s just me.

    • JD Kenada November 2, 2012 / 7:49 am

      I remember when I created Claws of Nature. I knew next to nothing, and simply looked for people without a guild. I politely whispered them, asking if they wouldn’t mind signing my guild charter. They could stay or go. Not one person refused. One also ended up being the often mentioned Magik. It was how we met actually.

      • MissusAmateur November 2, 2012 / 10:03 am

        And the bro-mance continues to this day 😀

        • JD Kenada November 2, 2012 / 12:09 pm

          No, that was another guild I agreed to sign a charter for. Semblance didn’t stay in there too long.

  6. Askevar November 2, 2012 / 7:37 am

    I usually get the spiel asking me to send a tell if I want an invite. If I’m on an alternate server, I may just accept it. I have discovered one gem that way. But if I’m going to risk accepting an invite, the guild best be at least level 10… so I guess those already have some established community.

    • JD Kenada November 2, 2012 / 7:51 am

      I would agree with you now for sure, seeing how fast my small guild has gone from level 12 to 20 in about a month. The flipside of that I suppose is that anyone can be 25 now.

      The ones asking to whisper if I want an invite don’t bother me nearly as much. At least those respect the fact I might not be interested, rather than just throwing it at me.

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